Why should I Change How I Talk!
I recently attended a Richard Bona concert with my partner, who is an avid fan. The performance was incredible, and afterward, Bona was signing t-shirts outside the hall. My partner, eager to meet him, rushed to the front of the line but froze in awe when it was finally his turn. As he hesitated, others—mainly women and Black men—pushed past him to get their moment with the musician. I pushed him forward, determined not to let him miss his chance. This moment made me reflect on why some people push through while others wait. I realized that those who wait often do so because they are accustomed to receiving opportunities without having to assert themselves—a privilege not everyone shares. Meanwhile, others (except the entitled opportunists) must push their way through to claim their chances. I am someone who pushes through crowded spaces, demands action, speaks up, and insists on being heard. I get irritated when asked to be softer or quieter, and I wonder if this assertiveness stems f...